Life, Purpose, Sharing, Fulfillment etc.

Hey guys I’m back!  When I’m not blogging always know I’m out there trying to get some coins.  This woman has got to eat and have them bills paid at the end of the day.  However, nothing makes me happier than sharing food news, recipes, cooking and lifestyle tips on this site.  When I am not blogging, I get to watch my stats dwindling from 218 000 visits per month to a mere 150 000 visits and trust me that is not a good feeling…..I’ll be sharing some recipes today to make up for all the time I was away but before I do that allow me to share this with you ……


While I was away from the blog I couldn’t help but think about how our generation is becoming so self indulgent, self obsessed and the consequences resulting from that.    A very young and might I add, very beautiful girlfriend of a person I know committed suicide a couple of weeks ago.  Reason being, the guy was having a wandering eye and sista girl was having none of it.  She decided to end it all.


That is sad alright.  But only if she knew that there is more to life and there are people out there with more serious problems.  Some people are born into problems and there is nothing they can do about them instead they keep a positive outlook on life and keep it moving.


Few years ago I was at a SARS queue towards a deadline for filing returns.  The line was long and people were tired. There was a lady standing in front of me, she was very sweet, energetic, with a vibrant personality.  If one of us decided to go buy, let’s say a cool-drink, then come back confused as to where they were standing she would call them waving.  As we were chatting, now approaching the counters she mentioned she had a brain tumor and the doctors told her it was growing at an uncontrollable rate and as it get bigger she was going to die.


This is the same lady who was smiling, laughing and telling jokes the whole time at the queue.  Meanwhile, I was standing there thinking of my problems and how unfair life was the entire time.   I left SARS that day disappointed with myself at how ungrateful I was at the same time taking stock of my blessings and overwhelmed with how this young lady was keeping a positive outlook on life with all the obstacles she had on her path.

My point is, being too self involved and self indulgent can be detrimental to one’s emotional and mental being.  As a result it can obscure one’s view as to how life is and what other people have to go through on a daily basis.


So guys, let’s stop putting too much focus on ourselves.  Our lives are not just about us.  Let’s spend time with people in our communities, volunteer at a charity organization etc.  That takes your mind of your “problems” and makes you realize how blessed you are.

About Author


Thuli Gogela is a Food Technologist with 8 years of experience developing products in food manufacturing. She is dedicated to discovering wholesome traditional dishes and recipes with a distinctive taste from different parts of the African continent. Thuli is well known for her food blog, Mzansi Style Cuisine which was established in 2010. She saw a gap in the traditional food market that people were hungry for. From there, it didn’t take long to build her brand. In 2013, she started writing a recipe column for the Cape Times for and has collaborated with some of the biggest brands in South Africa namely, Knorr, Nedeburg Wines, First Choice and Spekko rice. Not only does Thuli feature traditional African dishes, she’s also open to developing recipes, food consultations and brand collaborations.

Comments ( 2 )

    • Hey Unathi!

      Great to see you here! Xx!

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